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Q. I just found out that my husband has been going to pornography web sites for quite some time, and I feel ugly to him. It’s something I can’t get out of my mind and it’s hard to have a physical relationship with him anymore. I don’t think he is going back to those web sites anymore, but the damage is done. What can I do?

A. Well, first of all you need to know for sure that his addiction has ended and repentance has taken place. If it’s not a true repentance then it may only become “sin management” for him and might surface again down the road. Those feelings you have physically with him are those devastating consequences that will occupy your life for some time. God wants us to be “one” with each other, but you can’t purge what may be years of neglect and attention that he diverted away from you and placed on a flat screen monitor. Being one means also being one with God, and your husband cannot serve two masters. If he with his full heart begins a journey of obedience and love with God, you will begin to feel him cherish you in a way you’ve never felt before. Continue to pray, and believe!